Coming off the point above. You are probably thinking, but if I act like this, everyone is going to hate me and think I am crazy. No, you have to draw a line between business and non-business. You have to be able to switch on and off, you can’t stay in this perfectionist mindset forever, you need to be able to draw that line for not only yourself but for your teammates also. “You say that as if it’s easy, but how can I do that? I mean I care about my teammates and want to win. How do you balance the two?” Here is my piece of mind, you spend practice, games, road trips and film review with these guys, after that what are you doing? Are you taking time out of your day to hang with the guys, go out to eat, kickback and relax? If not then that is your first problem. The team only knows you as being this one person the captain who speaks loudly, commands, works his ass off and does not have fun.
There is no one way to be a captain. Like I said draw the line there is time for business and time for fun. Business is to be taken care of when you are at the gym, at practice, on the bench, in the game, in the locker room. After that away from those hours, it’s fun. It’s taking the time to hang with the guys and show them your loose side, your fun side, your oh who gives a crap side. If you only have one side that is all they will see and know. You do this early on though not mid-way through the year because when you do start to make time for them they will think you are using them or will crack jokes and not take you seriously. This has to be established from the start. It can be as simple as “once we are in the locker room, in the gym, in the game it is all business. Don’t talk to me, don’t smile at me, don’t laugh at me. We are here to do our job. Once we are done and all is over with, we can have fun but it’s either take care of business during practice and game time or you’ll hate me.”
CLEARLY state the expectations, you were honest and there is no confusion now. Draw the line early and STICK to it. That means you don’t allow others to slack off, you don’t show attention to one person and not anyone else. They don’t reach out to you, you reach out to them. Make time for your teammates, get to know them on a personal level. Spend time with them, talk with them and be yourself. Like I said you draw this line early the business will be business time and the fun will be fun time, you will see relationships created that will be unbreakable and your teammates all buying in for a common cause. There’s business and fun. Draw the line.