Going off my last blog talking about advice for young hockey players, I figured this would be a good follow up to piggy back off the previous post. I have in the title "young athletes" and not hockey players as this information is applicable to any athlete (sadly enough adults as well).
I will try to keep this shorter than previous posts to make it easier to digest and follow. Sometimes I ramble on and do not even realize I had just written a 10 minute read for an article. There I go again...
Anyways, the biggest and best piece of advice I can give every young athlete ages 8+ years old is that they need to get used too the word "no" and hear it more often than they hear "yes". Sure sounds controversial but often times we associate "no" with failure or disappointment.
"No, you did not make the team"
"No you cannot stay up one hour past your bed time"
"No you can't have that soda at 8 PM"
"No you are doing it wrong"
"No. We are moving forward with other applicants"
The word no is often associated with failure, yet failure is a temporary event in life and not your identity. No one remembers all their failures in life, all the times they made mistakes, messed up or did something wrong. No one remembers that baseball player who hit the most home runs but also struck out the most. Or the Michael Jordan quote
"I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life."
Why? Because it is a temporary event in your life that does not define you. What defines you is your actions following that "failure". How do you deal with failure? How do you deal with being told no? Do you cry like a new born baby, do you throw temper tantrums, do you hold anger and resentment to those who said no. Like I said failure is a temporary event in your life, what is more important is the character you are building through the process following the failure. The true character of people comes out during their ugliest times. Therefore get used to failure and get used to being told no.
Enjoy the process and keep believing.